people mourn the end of a relationship the way they mourn death

the saddest part is that its nowhere near as significant as death..

everything in your life stops beating...a piece of you does die momentarily

but eventually you move on...eventually you regain strength you work on your weakness and fortify your heart for the next battle.

for the most part people do no choose death...do not choose to walk out of your life forever. if most people had the choice we might live forever.

it's important to keep that in mind when "mourning" a break up.

yes we need time to come to terms with what is happening, to cry and feel sad for as long as you need but you should never give this breakup the power to change your life forever in a negative way. some people let it control them, dictate what they will no longer be a part of--fun, holidays, optimism...some people mourn relationship deaths when they should be celebrating

celebrating that they got out alive with a big chunk of them still intact and with time with the ability to love and be themselves again.

some people are easier to mourn than others...the a**hole, the jerk, the cheat...those you can hold on to that negativity to keep you away from the dark hole they were building around you.

others are more difficult to mourn...the good guy, the spoiler, the one who wrapped his big arms around you even from afar

but i wont mourn

because some things are worth remembering in a good light

the way you smelled, your big craddling arms...the way you'd wake me up in the morning for breakfast or the way you'd look at me before kissing me goodbye

some "deaths" teach you bitterness some "deaths" teach you reality

only in real death is there reason to mourn everything else is just a lesson

so i wont mourn i'll celebrate that you and i were ever you and i

i really wish this was a mean trick...and in the end...there is a happily ever after for you and me...