Press'n the RESET button...again

RESET: 1.To set again: reset a broken bone. 2. To change the reading of: reset a clock. 3. device for resetting instruments or controls.

Now the question is can you reset Love, Relationships, Friendships? For love and relationships is resetting , taking a break, starting over? pretending nothing happened , forgiving , but not really forgettin? Or does "resettin" just become a viciuos cycle people engage in without realizing instead of resettin they should be pressing the STOP, ABORT, NEGATE buttons of those cycles. I sit here and wonder why my friends, loved ones, and even myself at times in the past refused to see what i was doin to myself or others. Indeed sometimes we're so involved in something we cant even see it if it smacked us right in the face. But I cant help to feel sad for those that are in that situation now. Listening to my friends say, "its like we press the reset button"...and just like that they're good again. But I dont think they see in the end, maybe resetting is not the best way to go. ..or is it?

I hear the constant complaining of someone that has lived many disappointments, sufrimientos, desencantos, after 25 years, still speakign about the things that bothered her before, still buggin her today. A woman who is smart, hardworking and whos inner beauty surpasses her outer beauty , not because outer beauty is not incredible, but because of the effect she has on people when she enters a room. She can turn "any frown upside down" as cliche as that sounds, she brings life and love into anything she does...shes' just that amazing. Becuase of her attitude one would think she's a teenager, or in her 20's, if it werent' for the years that show on the little wrinkles around her eyes, and the way she holds her back showing years of pain and hardwork. Even so she can move her hips to the sound of bachata, merengue instantly without thinking about it. So how can someone so amazing , not see that she is? In my eyes...shes' presses the RESET button way too many times and shes' run out of reset buttons, without realizing every single time she's been hurt she may have "forgiven," but she has not forgotten. Bc every new disappointment brings back the memory of a past one, and the pain is still the same.. See from the age of 18, shes' been goin through the same ole. Being put down because of the color of her skin, because of how much of an extrovert she is, because in another person's eyes she's not worthy of being treated like a queen, because they are too selfish to see , having someone like her in their life is the biggest gift anyone could have. Yet she fights everyday to continue being the genuine, beautiful person she is, even though when you look in those big brown eyes you see her spirit is slowly dying, and yet there is a glimmer of hope . So why reset ? when she still has the chance to find someone that would appreciate her for everything she is and has to offer, because the one thing that she values most and has to show for all her struggles and starting over is being proud about the 3 children she's raised, making it through college, graduates and strugglin to become great people themselves. So is that enuff...I guess so . For her it is and for many other people out there it is... So i sit there everytime she needs to vent about the same things over and over, after 25 years she hasnt realized things are not goin to change unless she changes them...As sad as it is to hear someone older not see how great they are, its worse to see that older woman reflected in the eyes of a younger one who has her whole life ahead of her....only if they stopped and maybe didnt press reset on that relationship or on that love...and tried to find out who they are , what they have to offer, and truly see...their worth

I"m no expert, hell i ve learned the real hard way...but I have learned that I will try to never let anyone take me for granted and try not to press that reset button again, because sometimes you have to be selfish and put you first, second and third. Sometimes Love is not enough, most of the times ACTIONS DO SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, and if that person didnt show you the first , second and third time around that true love does not hurt and is not accompanied by disloyalty, lies, maltratos, etc etc...then Instead of reset...u press stop and move on until you find a smile along the way...

I rambled on but i had to get this off my mind...even if it makes no sense...i know in my mind it sounded rite lol...back to work.........